Can't Do It
Thursday, February 15, 2007
I can't do it. I just can't leave my little baby in daycare. I thought I could. I thought I'd enjoy having a day off, but it's not fun without Lilly. I miss her. She's just too young to be away from me.
I went by the check on her today and she was sleeping. I went in to talk with the teacher and told her that I was really having a hard time with this. Her response was, "You've got to let them go sometime".
Well, I don't have to let my one-year old go at all. She's my baby and I want her back. So, I'm going to finish my tax crap and then go down there and take my baby home for good. She's not going back. I need her and she needs me. I'm her mamamamamama.
posted by Avorie @ 10:49 AM,
4 Comments:
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At 11:27 AM,
Amanda and Tim said...
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Follow your heart - it knows what to do.
From the perspective of someone who works in daycare - sometimes it sucks! The children do not receive the one-to-one care that they do at home and they do have to learn to fend for themselves pretty quickly - even though we do stop the hair pulling etc - it still happens.
But there are som advantages to it -in that a lot of the children develop a sense of dependence and social skills they *might not* get at home...
Personally I have come to the conclusion that daycare works when the parents are happy with the arrangement - because a happy parent often creates a happy and secure child - but if it feels wrong to be separated from your child he/she too may feel this "wrongness". It works for some and not for others - it's all about following what your Mommy-instincts tell you!
oh also - each daycare provider and worker differs too and that can make a HUGE difference! I have found out this week that it is not my company that stinks but the management of my particular nusery. I also got incredibly annoyed when I was left with an assistant who did her planning whilst I tried to handle 5 screaming babies AND after I had asked her to change a nappy *sigh*... like I said in my email to you - you have to get to know the staff and policies! -
At 1:06 PM,
lagiulia said...
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Oh, I'm sorry this has been such a bad experience for you. Glad that you are doing what you're most comfortable with.
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At 9:36 PM,
Sara said...
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We were very lucky to find a nanny when my daughter was your daughter's age. Now that she's over 2 and 1/2, she goes to a Montessori program. If you are interested in some kind of structured program when she's older, I highly recommend it. It's a gentle, loving environment and something you could do just part time. Even if I stayed home with my daughter, I would choose this path -- she's learning so much and they are even helping with potty training. Our Lucy loves to go to "class" and there is plenty of play time too.
Just a thought -- but great that you are following your heart with this one, that's always the way to go I think. -
At 8:53 AM,
Isabel said...
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Yeah, you don't have to "let them go". I mean, she's only one. It's not like she's going off to college! What an odd thing for the teacher to say.
